Understanding Our Physical Life

As an holistic psychotherapist and healer, I believe that our existence is a blend of eternal spirit and temporary physical experience. Our spirit, although eternal, faces unique challenges when embodied in a physical form. One such challenge is the awareness of mortality. While our spirit lives on, our physical body has a finite lifespan, leading to a fundamental fear of death. This fear underlies all other fears and becomes a daily companion as soon as our spirit inhabits a physical body.

The Role of Early Experiences

Our initial experiences in life significantly influence how we handle fear. Loving and compassionate caregivers help us feel safe and grounded, fostering resilience. However, trauma can instil a deep-seated fear. Birth itself is a significant shock, introducing us to the world’s challenges. The mother’s health, her relationship with the father, and the surrounding environment during and after pregnancy all impact the level of trauma experienced by the child.

Prenatal Trauma

Trauma can affect us even before birth. An unsafe environment for the mother can release stress hormones that impact the baby. After birth, various life events can further influence our sense of safety. If caregivers are attentive and protective, we may still feel safe despite external threats. However, if they cannot ensure our safety, or if they themselves act unsafely, the child is left vulnerable, potentially leading to long-term trauma.

Impact of Early Trauma on Adulthood

Our early experiences shape our resilience to trauma in adulthood. We learn safety from our parents, and if they fail to instil this, we may feel unsafe in many situations. This variability explains why different people have diverse reactions to similar situations; what may traumatize one person might seem insignificant to another.

Fear and Trauma

Fear is a natural, primitive response to threats, driven by adrenaline. This response is crucial for survival, enabling us to react swiftly to danger. However, when escape is impossible, such as in cases of childhood abuse, the adrenaline does not dissipate. Humans often do not return to a normal state after trauma, leading to easily triggered fear responses. Our body stores these reactions, and minor triggers can provoke severe fear responses, as though reliving the original trauma.

Healing from Trauma

To heal, we must learn to communicate with our body and reduce these fear responses. Creating a sense of safety for ourselves is essential. This often involves learning self-regulation techniques, possibly with the help of a therapist who can model and teach these skills. Building trust in another person and, ultimately, in ourselves, is a vital step towards feeling love and overcoming fear.

Healing from trauma is a complex journey that requires understanding, compassion, and a holistic approach.

By addressing the root causes of fear, learning self-regulation techniques, rebuilding trust, and reconnecting with love, individuals can move towards a life of greater peace and fulfilment.


As an holistic psychotherapist and healer, I am here to support you on this path, offering a safe and compassionate space to explore your experiences and heal. Remember, while the journey may be challenging, it is also a profound opportunity for growth and transformation.