It is hard to come to terms with the loss of a loved one.
There can be so much change in our life when someone close to you dies, and once all the turmoil and preparation for the funeral is over you may suddenly be on your own trying to adjust. It can help to talk it through with someone who understands the range of emotions you may go through, including anger and resentment, as well as the expected grief and sadness.
Sometimes this can be made even more difficult to deal with if your relationship was not easy or had changed in recent years and unfinished business stays with you. Therapy can support you to acknowledge how you feel and process your emotions.
Facing your own death can be devastating; worrying about any treatments for your illness, drug side effects, as well as facing death itself; leaving loved ones and concerns about how they will cope without you. Perhaps you have spiritual questions, or perhaps you have never considered your own beliefs. It can be a relief to talk things through with someone who is not close to you – so you can say all the things you need to say without worrying about their reaction.
‘I came to therapy utterly broken having believed that the only way for my son to have any kind of good life would be one without me in it. I was completely lost and wanted to no longer exist.
Since therapy I have, with Linda’s invaluable help, understood how to save myself. She has taught me methods to use to understand about negative feelings and their impact. I can use those to great effect.
The upshot of this is to give me the self-confidence I had lost, to resurrect a happy version of myself that I thought was lost in grief and made me realise that trauma and C-PTSD can not only be overcome, but that you can learn to thrive again…to love again.
In essence it has saved mine, and consequently also my family’s, lives.’
Death The final Stage of Growth by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
On Grief and Grieving by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler
Mortally Wounded by Michael Kearney MD
Perspectives for Living by Bell Mooney