‘I came to therapy utterly broken having believed that the only way for my son to have any kind of good life would be one without me in it. I was completely lost and wanted to no longer exist.
Since therapy I have, with Linda’s invaluable help, understood how to save myself. She has taught me methods to use to understand about negative feelings and their impact. I can use those to great effect.
The upshot of this is to give me the self-confidence I had lost, to resurrect a happy version of myself that I thought was lost in grief and made me realise that trauma and C-PTSD can not only be overcome, but that you can learn to thrive again…to love again.
In essence it has saved mine, and consequently also my family’s, lives.’
Anger is a normal response; a tool for survival. It can be powerful and a force to achieve if you are able to use it in a controlled and calm way. However, I have worked with many people who are angry inappropriately or uncontrollably. I understand that this can be scary for the angry person, as well as those around them.
Anger is usually attached to something else; perhaps other feelings that the angry person finds difficult to express, such as grief, and pain, so we work together to find those and bring them to the fore. Authentic acknowledgement of these feelings, in safe surroundings, usually enables a greater sense of calm and a capacity to learn to deal with these feelings in a safer way.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” Carl Jung