It is hard to come to terms with the loss of a loved one.
There can be so much change in our life when someone close to you dies, and once all the turmoil and preparation for the funeral is over you may suddenly be on your own trying to adjust. It can help to talk it through with someone who understands the range of emotions you may go through, including anger and resentment, as well as the expected grief and sadness.
‘I would say I was a bit of a mixed-up jigsaw puzzle before therapy. I knew about bits of my life but for some reason I just couldn’t put them together. Those bits are finally slotting into place now.’
Sometimes this can be made even more difficult to deal with if your relationship was not easy or had changed in recent years and unfinished business stays with you. Therapy can support you to acknowledge how you feel and process your emotions.
Facing your own death can be devastating; worrying about any treatments for your illness, drug side effects, as well as facing death itself; leaving loved ones and concerns about how they will cope without you. Perhaps you have spiritual questions, or perhaps you have never considered your own beliefs. It can be a relief to talk things through with someone who is not close to you – so you can say all the things you need to say without worrying about their reaction.
‘I have better understanding of my feelings and accepting these, and I listen to my body’s signals and using this knowledge to help myself.’
Death The final Stage of Growth by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
On Grief and Grieving by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler
Mortally Wounded by Michael Kearney MD
Perspectives for Living by Bell Mooney