It is never OK for one person to abuse another – in any way. Recognising that you are being or have been abused sometimes is difficult, or at least, hard to admit to yourself, especially if by someone who was supposed to love you. Abusers can leave you with feelings of guilt, shame and confusion; that this was somehow your fault or you feel ashamed to admit that you allowed this to happen.
These feelings are all part of the abuse and bringing your feelings out into the open is the beginning of healing. It is possible to live without this pain and shame. Therapy can support you through this process.
Often the abused person has come into contact with a narcissistic person and it can take a while to understand what happened and re-discover the repressed and lost parts of yourself. Talking therapy, and healing, can be very helpful; as well as coming to understand what happened to you.